Menopause as a Beginning, Not an Ending
Sally Berg, who is sixty, is changing the way women perceive and experience midlife. She is living with a level of vibrancy, sensuality, and confidence that defies strongly held cultural ideas about aging; she is by no means slowing down. A compelling counter-narrative to the notion that menopause signifies decline is provided by her story. Sally, on the other hand, views it as a means of achieving greater pleasure, aliveness, and personal power.
Once struggling with exhaustion, low libido, and sexual disconnection during menopause, she now describes this stage of life as her most vibrant yet. What changed everything was not a new supplement or fitness regime, but a radical reconnection with her body and pleasure.
A Personal Awakening That Changed Everything
Like many women, Sally moved through menopause feeling disconnected from her sensuality and energy. Sexual freeze and a persistent lack of vitality became part of her daily experience. Then, during a tantra retreat, something profound shifted. Her body awakened in a way she had never known before, flooded with sensation, pleasure, and life force.
That experience marked a turning point. She emerged feeling more alive and energised than at any other time in her life. Sally describes the transformation as “rocket fuel for life,” not only revitalising her sexuality, but igniting her creativity, confidence, and sense of purpose.
This awakening led to a powerful realisation: pleasure is not optional for women in midlife — it is essential.
Why Pleasure Is a Health Practice in Midlife
Sally is now leading the menopausal pleasure revolution with her movement Mature Eros and teaches that embodied pleasure is one of the most effective pathways to health and wellbeing for midlife women. Activating pleasure in the body stimulates the release of oxytocin, a hormone associated with safety, connection, and calm. This natural shift helps regulate the nervous system, easing the body out of chronic stress.
As stress hormones such as cortisol decrease, many common menopausal symptoms begin to soften — including inflammation, brain fog, weight gain, fatigue, and reduced libido. Pleasure, Sally explains, creates space and flow in the body, allowing intuition, emotional balance, and joy to return naturally.
For her, choosing pleasure is not indulgent; it is a foundational act of self-care.
The Cultural Silence Around Menopause and Desire
Despite how transformative this stage of life can be, menopause and sexuality remain deeply taboo topics. Sally points to a youth-obsessed culture that sidelines older women, especially when it comes to desire. Mature women are often rendered invisible — in workplaces, media, and conversations about sexuality.
This cultural silence breeds shame. Many women unconsciously believe that their sexual selves no longer matter and quietly put that part of their lives away. Sally challenges this narrative head-on, insisting that menopause can be a woman’s most turned-on chapter yet — provided she has the right roadmap.
High Achievement and Hidden Emptiness
The women Sally works with are often highly accomplished. They have built successful careers, supported families, and met society’s expectations of achievement. Yet beneath the surface, many feel depleted, disconnected, and emotionally flat.
Years of pushing, producing, and caring for others have left little room for pleasure or ease. Desire fades, not because it is gone, but because the nervous system has been locked in survival mode for too long. Sally sees this pattern again and again — women who have mastered the outer world while quietly losing touch with themselves.
Reclaiming the Body Through the Reclaimed Woman Method
Sally’s Reclaimed Woman Methodology was born from her own healing journey through childhood sexual trauma, depression, and adult sexual freeze. Drawing on years of training and lived experience, her work centres on helping women gently return to their bodies.
The process begins with nervous system regulation, guiding women out of stress and into a state of ease. Simple somatic and embodiment practices are woven into daily life through habit-stacking, creating sustainable and lasting change. Ritual, self-devotion, and deep personal inquiry help women identify and release limiting beliefs that keep them small or disconnected.
The goal is not to fix women, but to help them remember who they are beneath conditioning, pressure, and expectation.
Choosing Ease and Watching Life Expand
When women begin prioritising ease and pleasure, the shifts can be surprisingly fast. Reconnecting with the body after years of disconnection often brings an immediate sense of relief and joy. Women report feeling more alive, more present, and more confident than they have in years.
By putting themselves back at the centre of their own lives, they reclaim energy that had been spent endlessly giving to others. Pleasure becomes a source of nourishment rather than something postponed or denied.
What “Sexy at Sixty” Really Means
For Sally, being sexy at sixty is not about looking a certain way or seeking external validation. It is about living in ongoing embodied erotic aliveness — a deep, internal sense of vitality that fuels every area of life. This pleasure is first and foremost for herself, independent of a partner, though she joyfully shares that her intimacy and connection are richer than ever.
This embodied sensuality, she believes, is a form of leadership — one rooted in presence, confidence, and fullness rather than burnout and sacrifice.
A New Story for Ageing Women
One of the most damaging myths Sally works to dismantle is the belief that ageing women are inevitably in decline. Her life stands as living proof that the opposite can be true. Midlife can be expansive, powerful, and deeply pleasurable.
Her message to women approaching menopause is both reassuring and radical: it is never too late to reclaim vibrancy, desire, and joy. Menopause is not the end of the story—it is the doorway to what comes next, and for many women, the best is still to come.
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